On the radio this morning while listening to the new song “Enough of No Love” by Keyshia Cole – this scenario came to mind.
She and her best friend are having lunch. It’s a crowed restaurant, but her friend sees him. A look of “OMG” comes over her friend’s face. She turns to see her boyfriend of 1 ½ years kissing another women, in a way that can’t be mistaken for anything than what it is.
Her friend looks at her surprised at how calm she is. She reaches in her brief case and pulls out pad and pen. She jots down her phone number and calmly walks over to her x-boyfriends table.
Handing the paper to the other woman –
She: Hello, My name is Lola and I’m his x-girlfriend, I just wanted to give this to you.
He: Lola, Baby….
She: Shhhhh, I’m not talking to you. (She continues her conversation with the woman) As I was saying, I just wanted to give you my number so that if you ever see it on his phone – I want you to understand that I did not call him – he’s trying to reach me. I assure you – I will not answer his call. If you ever come in a restaurant or any other public place that he happens to be – and I just happen to be there – he will not be there with me. You don’t have to worry about me trying to be a part of his life. We have no children, we have no relationship – there will be no drama coming from me. I wish him well, I wish you well.
She starts to walk away, he jumps up.
He: Lola wait, I love you, I’m sorry.
She: (to him) No, you don’t love me and you’re only sorry you got caught. I thought you understood, I was so very serious when I told you that I do not share. My life will not end because my relationship with you has ended. I may cry a few tears, but …… then again, I may not. I guess you didn’t understand that my world does not revolve around you. And I guess you forgot, when you met me, I was not sitting around waiting for you. I was living life and believe me I will continue to live my life to the full…… without you.
She takes a deep breath and walks away.
Note: She probably will cry, she probably will hurt – but she had expectations and she did not back down. I would love to see that happen instead of the stories of women slashing tires, beating up the other woman. The other woman did not commit to or have a relationship with you – why do “we” want to blame the other woman? A lot of times, she doesn’t even know about you. What do y’all think?
